If you don't have a destination in mind, how will you know you've reached it? Better yet, if you don't know where you're going, you will surely end up there.
You may have a very good idea of where you'd like to end up in life, but let me ask you this:
Are you, right now, where you wanted to be 10, 15, 25 years ago?
If you are, kudos! I mean that, from the bottom of my heart, because a vast majority of the women I've talked to in recent years... They just aren't.
None of them anticipated the chronic illness or injury that's reshaped their lives. I know I sure didn't. None of them had it in their plans to amass thousands of dollars in medical bills and other debt, as they tried to claw their way back towards being productive. And those that have had to give up beloved careers? Yeah. They didn't see that coming when they were in college.
Some of us wanted to go to school, but put it off until after the kids were in school. It never happened. Others wanted to be happily married for life, touring the world with life partners when they took vacations from careers they'd dreamed of while they were growing up. Instead, they're alone and trying to reconcile the life they were handed.
Reality check out of the way... Rather than wallowing in the could-have-beens that never were, look at where you are now.
This is a soapbox I tend to climb on periodically, because this simple step was the one that eluded me for years. When I was at the end of my rope, wondering if I had any purpose left in life, it was the thing that really pulled me out of the dark hole and got me moving again.
Where are you and where do you want to be at the end of your life?
When it looks like you're out of options, stop and take stock. Ask yourself those two questions, and then find a way to move forward again. You have more control over your future than you might think.
This process of mapping out where I want to go in life has been an evolving one for two years now, but the biggest shifts came after finishing Courtney Lodge's book Personal Mastery. [Affiliate link]
They literally started happening within moments of drafting the first section of my mastery plan.
And they've been rolling in since I finished the "final" draft last month. These plans are a fluid series of documents - they require updating and revisiting frequently (I decided to review them quarterly). They aren't particularly specific in terms of "I'll have x number of clients by Thursday," though you are asked to plan for how many people you want to help with certain topics.
So, how do you plan for your future? [I'm not actually addressing the all-important financial investments and such...]
Start with where you are. Take stock of what you have in your life, both the good and the bad. Where does your health fall? Your education? Your finances? Where do you want to be in 3 years? 5 years? 15 years? Here's where Mr. Lodge's book made a difference for me: How often do you currently do things to improve your life right now?
No one had ever asked me that before, in any of the self-development books or courses I'd taken before. And here, a $4.99 eBook was asking me to seriously consider how much effort and attention I'm giving to taking steps towards my goals.
Once you know where you are, and where you want to go, you can start getting into the nitty gritty details of mapping your course between today and the future. Only when you know where you're truly headed can you step up and get real help from accountability partners and coaches.
This week, I'm launching a new Facebook accountability group called Sage's Wolfpack. It's time to call in Sisterhood and support each other in reaching for those big goals. The Wolfpack group is secret (unsearchable for anyone NOT in the group), posts won't show on your feed for the world to see. We'll be tackling big questions and holding each other up as we move through the steps across our goal maps.
So, tell me now. Drop down into the comments box and share with me where you'd like to take your life! Sign up for my mailing list for more tips on abundant living and first dibs on features I'm adding to my offerings!