It's the easiest thing in the whole world.
You look in the mirror, and all you see are all the flaws, all the scars, all the things wrong with yourself.
The extra 10, 20, 75 pounds around your middle.
The scars and dark spots on your face. The glasses.
Take your pick.
I'm sure you are so very familiar with all the problems.
I've been there, too. (Far more frequently than I like to admit.)
So let me challenge your perception for just a moment.
Your scars, your imperfections... They make you beautifully unique. Your scars are a road map of the hardships you've faced. You've smiled through the pain more often than you should have been pushed to.
Life isn't always pretty. It's hard. It's damn hard sometimes.
Look at your scars and imperfections again. Not to find where you need to fix something, but to see the signs of lessons learned the hard way. See them through the lens of the growth you were forced into.
I recently had a confrontation with someone who tried to tell me that depression is just a matter of perception. He presented me with a head-ache inducing slide show filled with big words that implied that all I needed to do was meditate more and smile, and my depression would magically disappear.
Pshaw. I wish.
Don't get me wrong. I don't enjoy depression, anxiety, blinding migraines or constant pain from fibromyalgia.
But I also wouldn't magically erase them from my experience. Meditation and a positive outlook have a huge impact in improving my condition, but they aren't a fix. The scars I carry, inside and out, have made me stronger, more sensitive to the needs and feelings of others, more empathetic. My journey has given me a strong desire to help other women facing massive change in their lives.
Take another look in the mirror. What do you see now? Only the flaws? Or do you, instead, see the lessons and the beautiful way those flaws have shaped you into the amazing person you are today?
So, here's my challenge to you this week:
Drop into the comments below, and tell me one imperfection that is the evidence of a lesson that's made you a stronger, smarter, braver woman than you were before.